How to Help Your Senior Loved One Relocate After Losing Their Spouse

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Relocating has many benefits for seniors. To avoid loneliness, some seniors may want to move closer to their family and loved ones. Others are simply seeking a refreshing change of atmosphere and pace. Meanwhile, there are others who are looking to retire to a home that is smaller and easier to maintain.

There can also be more heartbreaking reasons for relocation in our Golden Years. These are the reasons we hesitate to discuss as much, such as the death of a spouse. Although we don’t like to think about this situation very often, death is inevitable for all of us. Research has shown that it is possible to die of a broken heart, and moving into a new home after the death of a spouse may help seniors with working through their grief so they can live longer, happier lives.

Helping a Loved One Cope

If you are reading this right now, please know that I am so sorry for your loss. As you already know, it is always difficult watching helplessly while our loved ones suffer. You cannot bring back your loved one’s spouse, nor can you take away the pain each of you  is currently feeling.


So what can you do? Here are some ideas for how to help your senior loved one:


Selling a Home

If you are assisting your senior loved one with selling his or her home, it is important to realize that this will be an undoubtedly emotional process for everyone involved. To make things easier on both yourself and your senior loved one, experts recommend starting with a clear plan of action.

You should knock out the easiest parts of the move as early in the process as you can. For instance, get rid of damaged or unused items first, before deciding what to do with bigger items that have more of a significant meaning to your loved one.

You may also want to assist your senior loved one with the home buying and selling process. This helps him or her from becoming the victim of con artists, crooks, and others who are often known for preying upon surviving spouses.


Buying a New Home
For a variety of reasons, our senior loved ones may need to consider moving into a smaller and/or more accessible home. For some, this may mean moving into a senior living community or a retirement home. For others, this could mean assisted living, or moving in with a caregiver such as a beloved relative.

When choosing to assist your loved one with relocating to a new home, it is important to consider what type of home environment might be best. Is your loved one able to continue living independently, or does he or she require a caregiver? Does he or she want to live alone or with others? Is purchasing a new home an option, or would your loved one prefer a retirement home or assisted living? Some seniors might even decide that living with a loved one, such as a relative, is best for them.


Remember, when it comes to relocation after the death of a spouse, every situation is different. It is up to your family to have a heartfelt conversation with your loved one to determine what is best for his or her unique situation. Whatever you decide is best for them, good luck with the move and with working through all the stages of grief.

Post courtesy of Jackie Waters.