Immediately after the loss of a loved one, it’s normal to have a million thoughts racing through your head. From trying to figure out the right place to host the funeral, to thinking about how life will ever continue without your parent, spouse, sibling or child.
Following the death, you’ll feel pain and sadness, and every emotion you have bottled up inside will spill out, making it seem overwhelming at times.
But while this experience can undoubtedly be one of the most difficult times in your life, it’s important to focus on your own health and well-being before tending to the needs of others since the healing process begins with you.
When you’re at a funeral home for the deceased’s viewing, there typically isn’t much time to eat in between the afternoon and evening viewing sessions. That’s why it’s important to delegate a family member to organize meals before, in between, or after the services.
Though eating fast food or pizza may seem like a good idea at the moment, it might make you feel worse in the long-run. If the poor eating habits continue after life has resumed back to normal, it might actually make you feel even more depressed.
Instead, opt for healthy snacks and meals, if possible, and remain active through exercise. It will help make the adjustment easier.
It’s often said that time heals all wounds. And while this might be true, it can also be a difficult fact to accept after suffering a death in your family.
Simply keeping busy, with work, school or an outside hobby, can take your mind off of the death. Even if it’s only for a short time, it will slowly help you move on and make the days pass a little more smoothly.
The more you’re preoccupied with events or activities, the less time you’ll have to feel isolated, alone, and depressed. Eventually, it’ll help you fully move through your grief journey.
Share your Thoughts
While each individual in your family may try to cope with the loss in a different manner – whether that involves expressing their feelings or not – know that it’s okay to share your thoughts with anyone who’s willing to listen.
Whatever you may be feeling after the death is normal. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind, or vent by writing your thoughts down in a journal or diary.
Or, at the very least, tell others how your loved impacted your life. Every bit of emotional therapy can help.
For more information regarding how to cope with a death, or to learn about Beinhauer’s unique, family-oriented approach to funeral services, contact us directly at 724-941-3211. One of our funeral directors will be happy to assist you.