It’s about that time again! As the holiday season approaches, most families begin lining up the traditions they’ve come to know and love from years past. However, for some families, especially those who have recently lost a loved one, the holidays are especially difficult. Favorite traditions can bring back both happy and sad memories that affect each person differently.
My holiday season normally kicks off with Thanksgiving, followed by a trip to my husband’s family’s hunting camp for deer season. Usually several family members are in attendance, including the family patriarch, my husband’s grandfather. But this year will be different, because in May, he died after a long battle with cancer.
This really hit all of us hard, even though we knew he had been sick for so long. He was the one who taught all of us, including me, how to hunt, fish, and really appreciate the outdoors. After talking it over with my husband, we’ve decided not to be a part of the hunting trip this year, because we’re not ready to experience it without Pap.
I encourage families to approach the holidays in the same manner. If you don’t want to partake in a specific activity, then don’t. You know yourself best, and you can judge whether or not you are ready. I do suggest that you create a new tradition to help recognize the absence of your loved one, and next year, you may be ready to revisit those old traditions. This year, I plan to hunt from home. Hopefully, Pap will send a big buck my way.
At Beinhauer’s, we are beginning a new tradition to help pay tribute to those we’ve lost with our 1st Annual Remembrance Tree Celebration at our Bridgeville location. A tree will be placed outside Beinhauer-Fryer Funeral Home during Bridgeville Light Up Night on December 2, 2011. We encourage you, your families and friends to come and place a favorite ornament on the tree, in memory of your loved one. At 7:30, the tree will be lit, and a memorial service will follow. Refreshments and giveaways will be provided. Please stop by and help create a new holiday tradition with Beinhauer’s.
Written by Kelly Keddie, Licensed Funeral Director & Family Services Manager