The Time of Death can be mystifying and troubling to a young person. Here at Beinhauer Family Services, LLP, we help children understand the processes of dying, death and bereavement and how it affects their lives. Our children’s program offers interactive discussions of what happens when a person dies, what the children will see, and examination of the caskets help children deal with the situation in an honest and caring setting before seeing their grandparent or other loved one. We encourage children to be part of the funeral by putting pictures, letters or other meaningful items in the casket. Young people may also act as honorary pallbearers during the service.
Should The Children Know?
Learning to accept death is a natural experience in life, which must not be ignored. Talking about death is necessary. It is a vital part of every child’s development.
How Should I Explain Death?
Death is a subject most of us do not like to talk about, but eventually we all have to face it. At Beinhauer Family Services, LLP, we would like to help prepare your family before the need arises. We have designed a program to meet the needs of your family, with respect to the ages of your children, your faith issues and cultural beliefs.
When and How Do We Participate?
Individual appointments will be made for your family or group at a time that is mutually convenient to your family and ours. The program is best conducted at Beinhauer Family Services, LLP. This gives the children more of a hands on approach to learning. The intention of the program is to give a better understanding, and remove the mystery around what happens when a person dies. Depending on the ages of your children, and the size of your family or group, we would like you to allow us 60 minutes for discussion, tour, and questions.
What Age Should Attend?
If the child is old enough to walk let him/her walk with you into the funeral home, if not carry them in with you.
Caring for a Surviving Child
As in all situations, honesty is the best way to deal with children. Talk to the child in a language that they can understand. Remember to listen to the child and try to understand what the child is saying and just as important, what they are not saying. Children need to feel that the death is an open subject and that they can express their thoughts or questions as they arise. Below are just a few ways adults can help children face the death of someone close to them.
- The child’s first concern may be “Who is going to take care of me now?”
- Maintain usual routines as much as possible.
- Show affection, and assure the child that those who love him or her still do, and that they will take of him or her.
- The child will probably have many questions and may need to ask them again and again.
- Encourage the child to ask questions and give honest, simple answers that can be understood. Repeated questions require patience and continued expression of caring.
- Answers should be based on the needs that the child seems to be expressing, not necessarily the exact words used.
- The child will not know appropriate behavior for the situation.
- Encourage the child to talk about their feelings, and share with them how you feel. You are a model for how one expresses feelings. It is helpful to cry. It is not helpful to be told how one should or should not feel.
- Allow the child to express their caring for you. Loving is giving “and” taking.
- The child may fear that they also may die or that they somehow caused the death.
- Reassure the child about the cause of the death, and explain that any thoughts they may have had about the person who died did not cause the death.
- Reassure him or her that this does not mean someone else he or she loves is likely to die soon.
- The child may wish to be a part of the family rituals.
- Explain any family rituals to the child or children, and include them in deciding how they will participate. Remember that they should be prepared beforehand, told what to expect, and have a supporting adult with them. Do not force them to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing.
- The child may show regressive behavior.
- A common reaction to stress is reverting to an earlier stage of development. (For example, child may begin thumb sucking, or bed-wetting; or, may need to go back into diapers or have a bottle for a time). Support the child in this and keep in mind that these regressions are temporary.
Adults can help prepare a child deal with future losses of those who are significant, by helping the child handle smaller losses such as through sharing their feelings when a pet dies, or when death is discussed in a story or on television.
In helping children understand and cope with death, remember four key concepts: Be Loving, Be Accepting, Be Truthful and Be Consistent.
Explanations That May Not Help
Outlined below are explanations that adults may give to a child to explain why the person they loved has died. Unfortunately, simple but dishonest answers can only serve to increase the fear and uncertainty that the child is feeling. Children tend to be very literal – – if an adult says that “Grandpa/Grandma died because they were old and tired”, the child may wonder when they too will be too old and they certainly get tired – – what is tired enough to die?
“Grandpa/Grandma will sleep in peace forever.” This explanation may result in child’s fear of going to bed or to sleep.
“It is God’s will.” The child will not understand a God who takes a loved one because He needs that person Himself, or “God took him because he was so good.” The child may decide to be bad so God won’t take him, too.
“Daddy/Mommy went on a long trip and won’t be back for a long time.” The child may wonder why the person left without saying goodbye. Eventually, they will realize Daddy/Mommy isn’t coming back and feel that something they did caused Daddy/Mommy to leave.
“John was sick and went to the hospital where he died.” The child will need an explanation about “Little” and “Big” sicknesses. Otherwise, they may be extremely fearful if they, or someone they love, has to go to the hospital in the future.
How to Help a Child Deal With Loss
- As soon as possible after the death, set time aside to talk to the child.
- Give the child the facts in a simple manner. Be careful not to go into too much detail. The child will ask more questions as s/he thinks of them.
- If you can’t answer his/her questions, it’s OK to say, “I don’t know how to answer that, but perhaps we can find someone to help us”.
- Use the correct language – say the words “dead” and “die”. Do not use phrases such as, “He’s sleeping…” or “God took her…” or “He went away…”
- Ask questions like, “What are you feeling?” “What have you heard from your friends?” “What do you think has happened?” etc.
- Explain your feelings to your children, especially if you are crying. Give them permission to cry, too. We are their role models: it is good for children to see our sadness and to share our feelings with them.
- Use the given name of the deceased when speaking of him or her.
- Understand the age and level of comprehension of your child speak to that level.
- Talk about feelings, such as angry, sad feeling responsible, scared, tearful, depressed, wishing to die too, etc.
- Read a book on death to your child. (Please see your local lending resource library)
- Read a book on childhood grief so you have a better understanding of what they may be experiencing.
- Talk about the visitation period and funeral. Explain what happens there and find out if your child wants to attend with the rest of your family.
- Think about ways that a child can say goodbye to the deceased, such as writing a letter, poem, drawing a picture, etc.
- Talk to your child about your religious beliefs, if appropriate, and what happens to people after they die.
- Invite your child to come back to you if they have more questions or have heard rumours so that you can help them receive the correct information.
- Talk about memories, good ones and ones that may not be so good.
- Watch for behavior changes in your child – if they are cause for concern, seek professional help.
- Watch out for “bad dreams” – are they occurring often? Talk about the dreams: they are a way to discharge stress.
- Friends, family and schoolmates frequently find solace and comfort in doing something special in the name of the person who has died.
- Sudden death, violent death and the death of a young person are especially hard to grieve. Disruption of sleep, appetite, and daily activities may be normal responses to an abnormal or unusual event.
Where do Children Fit In?
- Many parents never stop to think about what they will do with the children when a loved one dies. Probably most wonder who they will get to baby-sit the children while they attend the funeral. Excluding children from the funeral will delay their grieving and hinder their ability to deal with death and loss later in life. Here are some practical ideas that have worked well.
- Give children the opportunity to draw a picture of a happy memory they have of the person who has died. This picture can be placed in the casket or with the urn.
- Have a child write a letter to the person who has died. This gives the child the opportunity to say, “I love you” one more time and to say goodbye. Put the letter in the casket or with the urn.
- A child can either pick flowers from the garden at home or buy flowers and place them either in or on the casket or by the urn.
- Older children can act as honorary pallbearers or can read a selection at the funeral. They could also act as ushers at the funeral.
- You will find it very helpful to spend time explaining to the children what a funeral is about and what will happen. Taking them to the funeral home for the visitation or wake is helpful in making them feel comfortable in those surroundings. The day of the funeral will be much easier for them if this happens..
RESOURCE LIST BY COUNTY
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|VITAS Healthcare 2009 Mackenzie Way
Suite 110 Cranberry Township, PA 16066 412-799-2101
|Patricia D. Brown, PhD, Bereavement Services Manager 412-799-2123patricia.brown@vitas .com||VITAS cares for families for at least 12 months following the death of a loved one. ALL Groups and services are also open to the general community. Spring and Fall Memory Bear Reunions, HolidayRemembrance Service, Mother’s DayTea: Call or email for a complete listing of seasonal Remembrance Services and events, published bereavement materials and addition 1-on-1 grief support.|
|Allegheny County Dept. of Human Services||Area Agency on Aging, Birmingham Towers, 2100 Wharton St., 2nd Fl., Pittsburgh, PA 15203||412-350-5460. Senior Line: 800-344- 4319||Speak to any Care Manger for information.|
|Baldwin||Holy Angels Parish, 408 Baldwin Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15207.||Suzanne Hunter, 412- 462-9928||Open support group, 6-week program offered 2 times a year, Spring and Fall. Call for dates, times, and details.|
|Bloomfield||AHN Hospice, Allegheny Health Network, West Penn Hospital, 4800 Friendship Ave., Pittsburgh PA 15224, Attn: Ellen||Rebecca Trichtinger- Ragni, 412-439-1157||Call 412-334-9753 to register. 2nd Monday of each month 12:30 – 2:00 PM or 7:00- 8:30 PM at West Penn Hospital. Volunteers run the support groups.|
|Bloomfield||Cancer Caring Center, 4117 Liberty Ave., Pittsburgh, PA 15224||Stephanie Scoletti, 412-622-1212Stephanie@cancercari ng.org||Registration required. Call for dates, times and details. 1-on-1 support for adults. Call for appointment.|
|East McKeesport (also serves Glassport, White Oak, McKeesport)||**St. Robert Bellarmine Roman Catholic Church, 1313 5th Ave., East McKeesport, PA 15035||412-824-2644 Church Office Hours: Monday – Friday, 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM||Bereavement/Grief Support Group. 3rdWednesday of each month (except December), 7:00-9:00 PM. Facilitated by professional Bereavement Counselor. No registration needed and no fees. Call for information.|
|Forest Hills||St. Maurice RC Church, 2001 Ardmore Blvd., Pgh., 15221 412- 271-0809Sponsored by Lanigan Funeral Home
||Contact Maryanne, Lanigan Funeral Home 412-824-8800 for more information.||Grief Support Group. No registration needed. Facilitated by Dr. Barbara Coyne, 1st Wed. of each month 7:00 PM, St. Maurice Parish Center.|
|Fox Chapel||UPMC Family Hospice Bereavement Department: 412- 572-8829,amartinez@familyh ospicepa.org||UPMC Lighthouse Pointe, 500 Chapel Harbor Dr., Pittsburgh, PA 15238||North Grief Support Group, 1st Tues. of Month, 10-11:30 AM. 18+yrs. Preregistration is required.
Growing Through Grief – Rebuilding Hope, 6-week educational program held in Spring and Fall.
Contact Family Hospice Bereavement Department for information and registration.
SS. Simon and Jude Parish, 1607 Greentree Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15220
|Laura O’Keefe,Facilitator, 412-563- 3189||6-week bereavement group, 4 times a year. Call Laura for dates.|
St. Philip Parish, Ascension Center, 114 Berry St., Pittsburgh, PA 15205
|Ann Louise Dailey, 412-922-6959.||St. Philip Grief Support Ministry, 3rd Thursday of the month, 2:00 – 3:00 PM, Connor Hall. Accessible to those with disabilities. Open to all faiths. Walk-ins welcome.|
|Jefferson Hills||Jefferson Hills Regional, Spiritual Care Office, 565 Coal Valley Rd., 1stFloor, Jefferson Hills, PA 15025||Chaplain Larry Coltura, 412-522-9234||8-week Certified Grief Recovery Course, open to all. To register, contact the chaplain.|
|McCandless||Passavant Hospital Foundation, Cumberland Woods Village, 700 Cumberland Woods Dr., Allison Park, PA 15101,www.bridge2hope.o rg||Janine Sidoruk,
firstname.lastname@example.org u, 412-748-5120 (program consultant), 412-748-6640 (Foundation), 412- 635-8080 (Cumberland Woods)
|Beyond Bridge to Hope Bereavement Support Group, Passavant Hospital Foundation Conference Center – Room 2, 2nd Wednesday of the month, 7:00 – 8:30 PM. Bereavement group specifically for loss through alcohol and drug addiction. No registration necessary. Facilitated by Susan Wesner, RN, MSN, CS.|
|McCandless||UPMC, Passavant Hospital, 9100 Babcock Blvd., Pittsburgh, PA 15237||Ed Lewis, 412-748- 5899,email@example.com||6-Week Bereavement Support Group sponsored by UPMC Passavant with the Palliative and Supportive Institute. Held in Cancer Center Conference Room #G585, Thursdays, March 8 – April 12, 2018, 4:00- 5:30 PM. Contact Ed to register.|
|Monroeville||AHN Hospice, Forbes Regional Hospital, Allegheny Health Network, 2570 Haymaker Rd., Monroeville, PA 15146||Rebecca Trichtinger- Ragni, 412-439-1157||Call 412-334-9753 to register. 2nd Thursday of the month, 6 – 7:30 PM. Meets at Forbes Regional Hospital.|
|Monroeville||Interim Hospice, 1789 S. Braddock Ave., Pittsburgh, PA 15218, 412-436- 2200||Hillcrest United Presbyterian Church, 1622 James St., Suite 340, Monroeville, PA 15146, 412-371-3726||One Day at a Time: Journey Through Grief Bereavement 6-Week Series. Facilitated by Rev. David Muir, Hospice Chaplain. Call for reservation.|
|Mt. Lebanon||St. Clair Hospital, 1000 Bower Hill Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15243||Community Education Department, 412-942- 5877,Victoria.fitzpatrick@stc||Hugs for Healing Hearts: Pregnancy Loss Support Group, 2nd Mon. of month, 7-8:30 PM, 4th fl. Medical Library. Registration required by telephone or online.
Hugs for Healing Hearts: Subsequent Pregnancy After a Loss Support Group, 2ndMon. of month, 5:30-6:30 PM, 4th fl. Medical Library. Registration required by telephone or online.
Mother, fathers, and couples welcome at both groups.
|Mt. Lebanon||UPMC Family Hospice Bereavement Department: 412- 572-8829,amartinez@familyh ospicepa.org||Family Hospice Inpatient Center, 50 Moffett St., Pittsburgh, PA||South Grief Support Group, 3rd Monday of month, 7 -8:30 PM. Preregistration required. 18+ yrs. Contact Family Hospice Bereavement Department for information and registration.|
|Mt. Lebanon||UPMC Family Hospice Bereavement Department: 412- 572-8829,amartinez@familyh ospicepa.org||Southminster Church, 801 Washington Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15228||South Grief Support Group, 2nd Tues. of month, 1 – 2:30PM. Preregistration required. 18 yrs.+
Growing Through Grief-Rebuilding Hope 6- week educational program; Spring and Fall.
Contact Family Hospice Bereavement Department for information and registration.
|Mt. Lebanon/ Pittsburgh||Compassionate Friends Pittsburgh Chapter, P.O. Box 15495, Pittsburgh, PA 15237, 412- 835-1105,compassion@tcfpitt sburgh.org,www.tcfpittsburgh.or g||Pauline Sambol, 412- 585-0787,letterperfect@zoomint ernet.net, chapterleader@tcfpitts burgh.org||Supports families (parents, siblings, and grandparents) who have lost a child of any age through any cause. No fee or registration required. Meets from 2:30 – 5:30 PM the last Sunday of the month at Bower Hill Community Church, 70 Moffett Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15243. For information, contact Pauline.|
|North Hills||Anchorpoint Counseling and Ministry, 800 McKnight Park Dr., #802, Pittsburgh, PA 15237||Office hours: Monday- Friday, 9 AM – 8 PM, Saturday, 9 AM – 2 PM. Call 412-366- 1300 to schedule appointment. Contact: Lori||Professional Counselor will follow up within 24 hrs. Accepts many health insurances or on sliding scale fee. No one is denied due to financial constraints.
*Bereavement support group for widows/widowers over age 50. *Self-Care for Women” (depression, etc.) skills group.
Gateway Hospice 9380 McKnight Rd., Suite 201, Pittsburgh, PA 15237
|Call 412-536-2020 for more information. Marcie Brown, Social Services PA.||3rd Tuesday – Two sessions held.
3:00 – 4:30 PM, Caregiver Support Group. 4:30 – 5:30 PM, Bereavement Support Group.
|North Hills||Heritage Hospice, 2400 Leechburg Rd., Bldg. #300, New Kensington, PA 15068,www.heritagehospic epa.com/resources. php,www.heritagehospic epa.com/bereavem ent.php||Cynthia Kinney, 724- 334-6600,ckinney@heritagehosp icepa.com||North Hills Grief Group, 2nd & 4th Thursdays of the month, 10:00-11:30 AM. Meets at St. Paul’s United Methodist Church, 1965Ferguson Rd., Allison Park, PA 15101. Call Cynthia for information and registration.|
|North Hills/Shaler||The Grief Recovery Method, 132 SW Crowell Way, Suite 100, Bend, OR 97702, 800-334- 7606,www.griefrecoverym ethod.com||**Suzi Lagamba, Grief Recovery Workshop Leader, certified through Catholic Charities.
Cell: 412-519-7148. Landline: 412-487- 1696
|$300 includes materials. No waiting period. One-on-one and group sessions. Ask for Pittsburgh location.|
|North Hills/ Wexford||Sarah Souri – Private Practice||412-400-4315,
souricounseling@com cast.net www.pittsburghmotherl essdaughters.com
|Motherless Daughters Grief Support Group. Individual grief counseling. Address given at time of appointment. Accepts UPMC and Highmark Insurance.|
|North Side||Center for Traumatic Stress in Children & Adolescents, Allegheny General Hospital, Allegheny Health Network, 4 Allegheny Center, 8th Fl., Pittsburgh, PA 15212||www.pittsburghchildtra uma.org
Faith O’Shea, 412- 330-4328,firstname.lastname@example.org
|The center’s specialty provides trauma- focused therapy to young people. Children are referred here following any number of traumatic or highly stressful events. The death of someone who is important to a child is certainly one of the many reasons a young person may get referred to our program, but bereavement support is not their sole focus. Contact them for information.|
|Oakland||STAR Center, 100 N. Bellefield Ave., 6th Fl., Pittsburgh, PA 15213,www.starcenter.pitt. edu||Jamey Covaleski, 412- 864-3346,email@example.com||Registration required. Will receive information packet prior to 1st meeting. Survivors of suicide support group for adults (19+ yrs.)
Winter Session: Closed
|Penn Hills||HandinHand Counseling Services, LLC
Duff Office Ctr.,
10 Duff Rd., Suite 201, Pittsburgh, PA 15235, 412-871- 5391
|Sharise Nance, LCSW, CCTP, 412- 414-7782,handinhandcounseling .firstname.lastname@example.org,sharise.nance@hihcou nseling.com,www.hihcounseling.com||One-on-One bereavement/grief counseling. Accepts insurance and offers fee based on income.|
Parent Resource Network, 5151 Penn Ave., Pittsburgh, PA 15224,bereavement@pare ntresourcenetwork.o rg
|The Children’s Homeof Pittsburgh & Lemieux Family Center, 5324 Penn Ave., Pittsburgh, PA 15224, 877-647-4373 x709||Bereavement Support Group for parents who have experienced a loss. 3rd Tuesday of the month, 7 – 9:00 PM. Call or email if you have questions or would like to talk.|
|Scott||Our Lady of Grace Parish, 310 Kane Blvd., Pittsburgh, PA 15243, 412-279-7070||Paula Elliott, Bereavement Facilitator, 412-279- 6560.||Sessions held at Rutkowski Religious Education Center, 1730 Bower Hill Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15243|
|Sewickley||Catholic Hospice 2605 Nicholson Rd., Suite 3240, Sewickley, PA 15143||Cristen Krebs, Executive Director, 866-933-6221www.catholichospicePi ttsburgh.org||Community support group. Call for reservations or information. Facilitated by Susan Houser and Robyn Aguzzi.|
|Sewickley||Heritage Valley Sewickley, 720 Blackburn Rd., Sewickley, PA 15143||Diane Cooper, 412- 749-7625,DCooper@HVHS.org||Grief Group Meeting. Pregnancy Loss and Infant Loss support group meets the 2ndMonday of the month from 7:00-8:30 PM at the hospital.|
|Sewickley||Lisa McCormack, Massage, Reiki, Hypnosis, 531 Locust Pl., Sewickley, PA 15143.||Lisa McCormack, LSW, LMT, MBLEX,email@example.com,www.lisamccormack.massagetherapy.com||Office located at McFadden Chiropractic and Wellness Center. Call for appointment|
|Sewickley||St. Stephen’sChurch, 405 Frederick Ave., Sewickley, PA 15143||Debby Frantti, Pastoral Care Director, 412- 741-1790,dfrantti@ststephensch urch.net||Griefshare Bereavement Support Group, 1st and 3rd Tuesdays of the month, Sept. – May. (Adapts to accommodate holidays.) Please call to confirm. Call or email for information.|
|South Hills||Allegheny Health Network||Liz Warner, 412-571- 5138, Asbury Heights Baum Chapel, 700 Bower Hill Road, Pittsburgh, PA 15243||Call to register. Wednesdays, 10:00 AM – 12:00 PM.|
|Squirrel Hill||Sivitz Jewish Association on Aging. 200 JHF Dr., Pittsburgh, PA 15217||Jan Kellough, 412- 422-5700,jkellough@jaaPittsbur gh.org||General Bereavement: Jewish Community Center, last Tuesday of the month, 3-4:30 PM, Room 204. Call or email for information.|
|Upper St. Clair||Westminster Presbyterian Church, 2040 Washington Road, Pittsburgh, PA 15241||Peg Kinsey, 412-835- 6630 x221,kinsey@westminster- church.org www.westminster- church.org||Grief Recovery Group, 5-week sessions typically in April and October. Check website for dates. Prefers contact via email, but can call.|
|Warrendale||Find Your Balance Counseling Services LLC, 17025 Perry Hwy., Warrendale, PA 15086||Wendy A. Myers, MSW, LSW, 724-933-0202,firstname.lastname@example.org||Specialties: Individual counseling for acute/chronic illness, caregiver support,grief/bereavement counseling, women’s issues. Face-to face and/or phone counseling available. Call for appointment.|
|Whitehall/ Brentwood||St. Peter’sEpiscopal Church, 4048 Brownsville Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15227||Jay Giesler, 412-884- 5225||Support groups:
2nd Tuesday of the month, March – June, 10:00 AM
2nd Thursday of the month, March – June, 7:00 PM
|Apollo||Visiting Nurses Association in association with Curran-Shaffer Funeral Home, 100 Owens View Ave., Apollo, PA 15613.||724-478-1244,
http://www.curranfuner alhome.com/grief- support/overview
|Call for dates and times. 2 Locations:
First Evangelical Lutheran Church, 358 Main St., Leechburg, PA, 724-845-7518
North Apollo Church of God, 507 29th St., North Apollo, PA, 724-478-1631
|Kittanning||Visiting Nurses Association in association with ACMH Hospital and||Kelli Connolly, Bereavement Coordinator, 724-431- 3520,||Grief class and support session. Closed group. Registration required. Call for information. Held at ACMH (Hospital),|
|Foundation, One Nolte Drive, Kittanning, PA 16201||Kelli.Connolly@luthera nseniorlife.org||Conference Room #2. Also offers individual grief sessions free of charge.|
|Kittanning||Visiting Nurses Association in association with ACMH Hospital and Foundation (mail to Jolene Formaini, Lutheran SeniorLife VNA, Western PA)||Bauer Family Funeral Home, 515 North McKean St., Kittanning, PA 16201, 724-545-9464,www.bauerfuneral.com /help-grief||Holiday Grief, Surviving the Season. A 45- minute program, short remembrance service, and refreshments. Presented by VNA Bereavement Specialist. Call for November date and time.|
|Aliquippa||St. Francis Cabrini, 115 Trinity Dr., Aliquippa, PA 15001
||Joann Bishop, 724- 495-6971.||Adult Grief Support Group and “Surviving the Holidays” (standalone session) held inO’Connell Hall. Registration requested.|
|Beaver||Compassionate Friends of Tri-State PA, 724-728-3003,www.compassionat efriends.org||First Presbyterian Church Commons, 252 College Ave., Beaver, PA 15009||Supports families (parents, siblings, and grandparents) who have lost a child of any age through any cause. 2nd Sunday of the month, 2 PM. Contact Sharon Kovack, 724- 847-1494, email@example.com|
|Economy Borough||New Hope Evangelical Lutheran Church, 200 2nd Ave., Freedom, PA 15042||Barbara Fetch, Facilitator, 724-203- 0298 or church at 724- 869-1187.||New Hope Grief Group. Wednesdays, 7:00 PM. Call for information.|
|Franklin and Marion Townships||Concordia Lutheran Ministries, Good Samaritan Hospice, The Moyer Foundation, and the YMCA||Heather Beachler, Camp Director,hbeachler@good- samaritanhospice.org,724-624-0934, or: Camp Erin Pittsburgh, Attn: Heather Beachler, 1525 Beaver Rd., Baden, PA
|2018 camp: June 8 – 10, weekend overnight (Friday morning – Sunday afternoon) Camp Erin for children ages 6- 17, thirty miles outside Pittsburgh at YMCA Camp Kon-O-Kwee. Application can be submitted online by email or ground mail. You can download a camper application atwww.camperinpittsburgh.org. Call or email Heather for information or to request an application.|
|Rochester||Faith Community United Methodist Church, 341 Jefferson St., Rochester, PA 15074||Karen Miller, 724-775- 3447.||GriefShare Support Group, Thursdays, 6:00 – 7:30 PM. Protestant Christian group features Biblical teaching on grief and recovery topics. Each session stands alone so participants may join at any time. Call for information.|
|Butler||Thompson Miller Funeral Home, 124 E. North St., Butler, PA 16001, 724- 287-3706,http://www.thompso n- miller.com/someone _caring.htm||Someone’s Caring,Facilitator Robin Miller, 724-287-2273,firstname.lastname@example.org||9-Week Basic Grief Support Group, Winter, Spring, Fall, Tuesdays, 6:30-8:30 PM. Other groups: 1. Bereaved Parent, 2. Pet Loss, 3. Suicide Survivors. Contact Robin Miller for information and dates.|
|Butler||Visiting Nurses Association, VNA Community Bereavement Center, 154 Hindman Rd., Butler, PA 16001,www.vna.com/senio r-living/events||Kelli Connolly, 724- 431-3520,Kelli.Connolly@luthera nseniorlife.org||Grief Support Classes. Call for times and dates. These are “closed groups,” so you must call to pre-register.|
Grace Community Church, 9160 Marshall Rd., Cranberry Twp., PA 16066
|Facilitator Jackie Eppler, MPH, Care Director, 724-779- 7997 x306,email@example.com||GriefShare Support Group, 13-week bereavement support, 7:00 PM. Call for details.|
|Cranberry||Grace Counseling Services, 9160 Marshall Rd., Cranberry Twp., PA 16066,www.gracecounseli ngservices.org||Susan Sheidy, MAMFT, Clinical Therapist, 724-553- 5030,firstname.lastname@example.org||Call for appointment.|
|Cranberry||The Grief Recovery Method, 132 SW Crowell Way, Suite 100, Bend, OR 97702, 800-334- 7606,www.griefrecoverym ethod.com||Denise DeMarco, Certified Grief Recovery Specialist©, 724-776-3298,dademarco75@gmail. com||$300, includes book and materials. Group sessions and one-on-one available.|
|Cranberry||St. Ferdinand Church, 2535 Rochester Rd., Cranberry Twp., PA 16066, 724-776- 2888,www.stferd.org||Pauline Sambol, 412- 585-0787,letterperfect@zoomint ernet.net||Bereavement support program for adults suffering the loss of a loved one. Meets 1st and 3rd Tuesday of the month, 7:30 – 9:00 PM, Oldenski Hall. Call the church or Pauline for information.|
|Cranberry||St. Kilian Roman Catholic Parish, 7076 Franklin Road, Cranberry Twp., PA||Deacon Ralph Bachner, 724-625- 1665 x2103||GriefShare 13-week groups and several session-times a year on Tues., 12:30 – 2:00 PM, Kilian Church, lower level, meeting room C. Call Sunday-Thursday for more|
www.saintkilian.org/ ministries_griefshar e.html
|information. Pre-Holiday Service in December. Registration requested.|
|Mars||195 Crowe Ave., Mars, PA 16046||Susan DeRiso, MSW, LCSW, 724-625-9450,suede17@zoomintern et.net||Private practice – counsels individuals, couples, and families dealing with bereavement. Call or email for appointment.|
|Mars||Connecting Hearts Virtual Visits, 195 Crowe Ave., Mars, PA 16046||Dr. Elaine Malec, 412-259-0281 or 724- 772-4949,www.icorconnects.com||Call for information.|
|Mars||Mars United Presbyterian Church, 232 Crowe Ave., Mars, PA 16046 (rear entrance)||Denise DeMarco, 724- 776-3298,email@example.com m.||GriefShare 13-Week Support Group (Christian focused video and discussion). May attend as able. No cost. 6:30 – 8:30 PM Mondays, February 12 – May 7, September 10 – December 10. Monday, November 12: Surviving the Holidays Seminar. Also offers 1-on-1 grief work for fee as a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist. Contact Denise for dates and to pre- register.|
|New Wilmington||UPMC Family Hospice||Presbyterian Seniorcare Shenango, 238 S. Market St., New Wilmington, PA 16142||North Grief Group, 4th Wed., of month, 3 – 4:30 PM. Meets in Craft Room, Shenango on the Green. Preregistration required. 18+ yrs.
Growing Through Grief – rebuilding Hope, 6-week educational program, Spring and Fall.
|Greenville||UPMC Family Hospice & Palliative Care,
50 Moffett St., Pittsburgh, PA 15243,412-572-8800, 800-513- 2148,www.familyhospice.org
|St. Paul’s Home, 339 E. Jamestown Rd., Greenville, PA 16125||North Grief Support Group, 1st Thurs. of month, 6:30-8 PM. Pre-registration required. 18+ yrs. Contact Bereavement Department for information & registration. 412-572-8829,firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Grove City||UPMC Family Hospice & Palliative Care,
50 Moffett St., Pittsburgh, PA 15243,412-572-8800, 800-513- 2148,www.familyhospice.org
|Grove City Medical Center, 631 North Broad St. Ext., Grove City, PA 16127||North Grief Support Group, 3rd Tues. of month, 6-7:30 PM. Meets in Cafeteria Meeting Rooms. Pre-registration required. 18+ yrs. Contact Bereavement Department for information & registration. 412-572- 8829, email@example.com|
|Hermitage||UPMC Family Hospice & Palliative Care,
50 Moffett St., Pittsburgh, PA 15243,412-572-8800, 800-513- 2148,www.familyhospice.org
|Whispering Oaks Retirement Community, 260 Buhl Farm Dr., Hermitage, PA 16148||North Grief Support Group, 2nd Wed. of month, 2-3:30 PM. Pre-registration is required. 18+ yrs. Contact Bereavement Department for information & registration. 412-572-8829,firstname.lastname@example.org|
|Sharon||Compassionate Friends Mercer County Chapter,www.compassionat efriends.org||Primary Health Network Charitable Foundation, 55 Pitt St., Sharon, PA 16146. Judy Yorks, 330-534- 9261 or email@example.com.||Supports families (parents, siblings, and grandparents) who have lost a child of any age through any cause. Separate suicide group. Last Monday of each month, 6:30 PM, January – November (unless noted otherwise). Call or email (no texts, please) Judy for information.|
|Canonsburg||Canonsburg Hospital, 100 Medical Blvd.,McNary Conference Center, Canonsburg, PA 15317||724-745-6100 x4118||Four monthly potluck dinners, 6:00 PM.
“When Morning Dawns” grief and lossseminar, Wednesdays, 6:30 – 8:00 PM.
Both programs require reservations.
|Coal Center||Grace United Methodist Church, 420 California Dr., Coal Center, PA 15423,www.gracecoalcent er.org||Andrea Erbrecht,Children’s MinistryCoordinator, 724-330- 5350, children@come- to-grace.org||FISH: Filling Injured Souls with Hope. Groups organized upon request. Requires minimum of 3 children. Helps K-12 and their families in loss through death. Trained through Highmark Caring Place. Wednesdays, 6:30-7:30 PM, Fall – Spring. Contact Andrea for information.|
|McMurray||Interim Hospice, 1789 S. Braddock Ave., Pittsburgh PA 15218, 412-371- 3726,dmuir@interim- health.com||Beinhauer Family Funeral Homes, Community Room, 2828 Washington Rd., McMurray, PA 15317||One Day at a Time: Journey Through Grief Bereavement 6-Week Series. Facilitated by Rev. David Muir, Hospice Chaplain. Call for reservation.|
|Monongahela||Monongahela Valley Hospital, 1163 Country Club Rd., Anthony M. Lombardi Building, Monongahela, PA 15063,www.monvalleyhos pital.com||Alyssa Zenobi, Communications Assistant, 724-258- 1234,azenobi@monvalleyho spital.com||Suicide Bereavement Support Group – 4-month program. Meets 2nd and 4th Mondays of the month, 1:00–2:30 PM and 6:00-7:30 PM. Registration required. Licensed psychologist facilitates. Call 724- 268-1144 for information and registration.|
|Greensburg||Compassionate Friends Westmoreland County Chapter, 724-835-1900 (Leslie Brisbine),TCFWestmoreland @comcast.net||Harrold Zion Lutheran Church, 671 Baltzer Meyer Pike, Greensburg, PA 15601,www.harroldzion.net||Supports families (parents, siblings, and grandparents) who have lost a child of any age through any cause. 2nd Tuesday of each month, 7:30 PM. Contact Tammy Hilland, Parish Secretary, 724-837-7327 x4|
|Greensburg/ Mt. Pleasant||Edie Strong,
|Edie Strong, SC, MSW, 724-547-1911,estrong@dioceseofgre ensburg.org||8 sessions led by Edie Strong. There is a fee for The Grief Recovery Program Handbook and registration. Call to register for the next start dates.
Two (2) locations:
|Irwin||Community UM Church, 3487 Rt. 130, Irwin, PA 15642||Carol or Wendy, 724- 744-3413 x204,info@communityumch urch.com||Contact Monday-Thursday for dates and to register.
Stephen Ministers: Individuals meet one- on-one with a trained lay Christian same- sex caregiver.
GriefShare: 13-week seminar. Each week features a video followed by discussion and uses a workbook to deal with feelings and rebuild life.
|Latrobe||Excela Health Home Care and Hospice, Latrobe Hospital, One Mellon Way, Latrobe, PA 15650, 724-537-1000||Maureen Ceidro, Hospice, Excela Health, 724-516-8605 (calendars now done on 6 month basis)||Trinity Lutheran Church
331 Weldon St., Latrobe, PA 15650 Thursday, 6:00 – 7:30 PM
April 3 – May 8, 2018
|Latrobe United Methodist Church 440 Main St., Latrobe, PA 15650 Tuesday, 2:00 – 3:30 PM February 14 – March 28, 2018|
|Latrobe Hospital: ongoing art-based support group. Meets on Mondays.|
|Latrobe||St. Vincent Basilica Parish, 300 Fraser Purchase Rd., Latrobe, PA 15650||Teri Pomerleau, Social Ministries Office, 724- 539-8629 x15,Teri.pomerleau@email .stvincent.edu||3rd Monday of the month, 7:00 PM, Conference Room. No registration necessary.|
|Ligonier||Holy Trinity Parish, Ligonier and St. Joseph Parish, 332 W. Main St., Ligonier, PA 15658||724-238-6434,
holytrinity@dioceseofg reensburg.org,www.holytrinityligonier. org and click on“Calendar.”
|Contact Addy Evangeliste at the Parish Office or email Facilitator Katsi Steimer (firstname.lastname@example.org) for information.|
|Mt. Pleasant||Compassionate Friends Laurel Mountain Chapter, 724-887-6294 (Georgia),leukemiamom702@ yahoo.com, (cont.)||Excela Health, Frick Hospital, 508 S. Church St., Mt. Pleasant, PA 15666||Supports families (parents, siblings, and grandparents) who have lost a child of any age through any cause. 2nd Monday of the month, 7:00 PM, Board Room.
|Mt. Pleasant||Excela Health, Frick Hospital, 508 S. Church St., Mt. Pleasant, PA
|Carla Collello, Grief Counselor, 724-689- 1360||Holds specialty groups that include: Men’s Group, Ceramics, and Cooking for One. Groups held in local church congregational buildings. All groups, locations, and times listed on website. For complete schedule, visit www.excelahealth.org, scroll down to Community Wellness, scroll across to Classes and Events, and type in keyword“Grief.” Call Carla to register.|
|New Kensington||Heritage Hospice, 2400 Leechburg Rd., Bldg. #300, New Kensington, PA 15068,www.heritagehospic epa.com/resources. php,www.heritagehospic epa.com/bereavem ent.php||Cynthia Kinney, 724- 334-6600,ckinney@heritagehosp icepa.com||New Kensington Drumming Circle, 2ndThursday of the month, 6:00 – 7:30 PM. Meets at Heritage Hospice.
Bereaved Parents Support Group, 3rdWednesday of the month, 6:00 – 7:30 PM. Meets at Heritage Hospice.
Men’s Grief Group, 3rd Tuesday of the month, 1:00 – 2:30 PM. Meets at King’s Restaurant, 2400 Leechburg Rd # 1000, New Kensington, PA 15068.
Contact Cynthia for information on these groups.
|ADDITIONAL GRIEF SUPPORT|
|Fox Chapel (Will travel to your location in Western PA)||Emily Harris, Storyteller, Teaching Artist||412-370-2402,
|“Kiss Your Worries Goodbye” – Emily Harris facilitates the creation of individual Worry Dolls inspired by Guatemalan Worry Dolls. You can book a Playshop/Healing Modalities Workshop with her. Contact her for dates and costs per person or for a group.|
|Pittsburgh||Center for Victims,
3433 E. Carson St. #300, Pittsburgh, PA 15203, 412-482- 3240
|24-hour crisis hotline: 866-644-2882,www.centerforvictims. org||Serves victims of crimes and their families: legal support, counseling and therapy, crisis response team, domestic violence shelter services, court advocacy.|
|Morgantown, WV||Circle Camps for Grieving Children, 5267 Holmes Street #305, Pittsburgh, PA 15201,www.circlecamps.or g||Sandi Welch, Founder and Director, 412-491- 8151,email@example.com||Circle of EKC in Morgantown, WV has a Camper Program for girls ages 9-12 and a Teen Program for young women ages 13- 14. Apply ASAP, as camps fill quickly.|
|Allegheny, Armstrong, Washington, and Westmoreland Counties||Pittsburgh Pastoral Institute, 6324 Marchand St., Pittsburgh, PA 15206, www.ppi- online.org||412-661-1239, 877- 661-9623||Partnerships with local congregations enable PPI to provide counseling and support groups through 20 convenient branch offices. Call for more information.|
|Allegheny, Beaver, and Butler Counties||Samaritan Counseling Center, 414 Grant St., Sewickley, PA 15143||412-741-7430,
info@samaritancouns eling.net,www.samaritancounse ling.net
|Samaritan offers two or more Grief Support Groups annually. Held once a week for six weeks, the Groups are free, an hour and a half in length, held in various locations, and led by trained professionals. Additionally, Samaritan provides a LOSS Group (Losing a Loved One to Suicide Support) designed especially for those who are suffering a loss due to suicide. A nominal fee is charged.|
|All Western PA Counties||Divine Mercy Apostolate of Saint Louise de Marillac Parish, 320 McMurray Rd., Pittsburgh, PA 15241
||St. Louise Parish Office, 412-833-1010||2 – 3 member teams travel to and pray The Divine Mercy Chaplet at the bedside of the sick or dying. Visit is approximately 15 minutes. Call the Parish Office during business hours. After hours, call Patty Lorenzi, 412-780-4255.|
|All Western and Central PA Counties||Highmark, The Caring Place,
620 Stanwix St., Pittsburgh, PA 15222,www.highmarkcarin gplace.com
|Downtown: 888-224- 4673 Warrendale/Cranberry: 888-734-4073||Offers a variety of support groups and activities for children, adolescents, and families. Call for registration and details.|
|All Counties||Covers of Comfort, Quilts of Remembrance (located in Cranberry)||Denise DeMarco, Creator/Quilter, 724- 776-3298,coversofcomfort@yah oo.com, www.facebook.com/qu iltsofremembrance||Heirloom Quilts, Lap Blankets, and Pillows created from loved ones’ clothing.|
|All Counties||Grief Share,
(search by zip code)
|Conservative Christian. Held at mainline Protestant and denominationally unaffiliated churches. Locations throughout all counties served by Pittsburgh VITAS.||13-week seminar. Each week features a video followed by discussion and uses a workbook to deal with feelings and rebuild life.|
|Nationwide||Compassionate HelpLine, Dignity Memorial||800-480-1234||Available 24/7/365 to families who used a funeral provider registered and affiliated with Dignity Memorial. Families should check with their funeral home to see if they have a 30-day or 90-day availability. Ask when you call.|